Coming Out On Campus


Whether you're in the process of coming out for the first time ever, or the first time today, disclosing your LGBTQIA identity can either be an anxiety inducing or freeing experience (maybe both!). Below are some helpful links for you to view about the Coming Out experience. 

Coming Out 101

Coming Out to a Roommate

There's no one-size-fits-all way to disclose your LGBTQIA identity to a roommate. You may want to come out prior to meeting your roommate, or wait until you've met; this depends on your needs and how safe and comfortable you feel. You may want to consider the following:

  • Do you want to be direct? "I want you to know that I'm _______."
  • Do you want to casually mention it? "I'm planning on minoring in GLBTA studies."
  • Be prepared for any response; it could be a non-issue, or may require additional conversation. Remember, you can't control how your roommate will respond to your coming out nor are you responsible for how they react.
  • Provide your roommate with resources about LGBTQIA identities.
  • Make sure you have a support system in place - family, friends, a mentor, etc.

If you are living in a dorm on campus

If you come out, and no longer feel comfortable with your roommate assignment, email Housing and Residential Life immediately for a new assignment. Gender Neutral Housing options are available as well as Lavender House- the U's LGBTQIA Living and Learning Community.

If you do not live in the dorms

Currently, there is not an LGBTQIA Housing Directory in the Twin Cities. However, the Queer Exchange Facebook group posts housing advertisements and requests daily. Disclaimer: This is a group outside of the U of M and is not endorsed by or monitored by our office or the university.

Coming Out in the Workplace

The U of M has an active LGBTQIA employee affinity group called Pride @ Work. Pride @ Work offers events, networking opportunities, and connections to other LGBTQIA employees on campus. Below is a list of articles with things to consider when coming out at work and tips for making the experience positive.


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